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VISTAS Online VISTAS Online is an innovative publication produced for the American Counseling Association by Dr. Garry R. Walz and Dr. Jeanne C. Bleuer of Counseling Outfitters, LLC. Its purpose is to provide a means of capturing the ideas, information and experiences generated by the annual ACA Conference and selected ACA Division Conferences. Papers on a program or practice that has been validated through research or experience may also be submitted. This digital collection of peer-reviewed articles is authored by counselors, for counselors. VISTAS Online contains the full text of over 500 proprietary counseling articles published from 2004 to present. VISTAS articles and ACA Digests are located in the ACA Online Library. To access the ACA Online Library, go to http://www.counseling.org/ and scroll down to the LIBRARY tab on the left of the homepage. n Under the Start Your Search Now box, you may search by author, title and key words. n The ACA Online Library is a member’s only benefit. You can join today via the web: counseling.org and via the phone: 800-347-6647 x222. Vistas™ is commissioned by and is property of the American Counseling Association, 5999 Stevenson Avenue, Alexandria, VA 22304. No part of Vistas™ may be reproduced without express permission of the American Counseling Association. All rights reserved. Join ACA at: http://www.counseling.org/ Managing Anger: A Cognitive-Behavioral Perspective VISTAS 2006 Online Managing Anger: A Cognitive-Behavioral Perspective Ralph F. Robinson, Jr. Delaware State University Email: rrobinso@desu.edu Biography: Author retired after 21.5 years from the US Air Force in 1996. He’s currently a College Counselor at Delaware State University holding a Master’s degree (MSW) and License in Clinical Social Work. He is also a current member of the Delaware Board of Clinical Social Work Examiners (governmental appointment); and former charter member of the National Institute of Mental Health Extramural Interventions Committee (June 2003 – June 2005). Specialty includes the practice of advance mental health as it relates to college students. “The moment I start hating a man, I become his slave. I can’t enjoy my work any more because he even controls my thoughts. My resentments file:///C|/counseling%20outfitters/Robinson.htm (1 of 17) [8/12/2006 10:13:36 AM] Managing Anger: A Cognitive-Behavioral Perspective produce too many stress hormones in my body and I become fatigued after only a few hours’ work. The work I formerly enjoyed is now drudgery. Even vacations cease to give me pleasure … the man I hate hounds me wherever I go. I can’t escape his tyrannical grasp on my mind. When the waiter serves me porterhouse steak with French fries, asparagus, crisp salad, and strawberry shortcake smothered with ice cream, it might as well be stale bread and water. My teeth chew the food and I swallow it, but the man I hate will not permit me to enjoy it … the man I hate may be many miles from my bedroom, but more cruel than any slave-driver, he whips my thoughts into such a frenzy that my innerspring mattress becomes rack of torture.” S.I. McMillan, None of These Diseases Most humans are able to manage their anger without much introspective thought. It can be described as an internal self-preservation switch that goes on when one is in danger of being highly emotional, or “out-of- control” as it relates to anger. There are some however, whose self- preservation switch is either defective or non existent and the result can be devastating. The anger and bitterness they harbor can be addictive and self- destructive. file:///C|/counseling%20outfitters/Robinson.htm (2 of 17) [8/12/2006 10:13:36 AM] Managing Anger: A Cognitive-Behavioral Perspective Why is it so difficult for some people to manage their anger? Well, according to Barris (1999 & 2002), there are many reasons. For some, anger appears to work. They make the connection that if I get angry with whomever, they will comply with what I want. However, this thinking is in error and neglects to consider that people have freedom of choice. For some, anger is an “over-learned” reaction. They have been reacting angrily for so long that it seems occur automatically, without thinking. However, behaviors and emotions are a result of thought. One cannot behave, or emote without thinking. A problem arises when one does not take the time necessary to think rationally, which may result in “semi- automatic,” irrational self-talk, emotions and behavior. The key is to teach one to slow down the thought process long enough to allow for meditation and rational thinking - - this takes practice and will be highlighted more later in this discussion. For some, anger helps them hold onto the past - - even an unpleasant past. For example, my childhood friend became pregnant and had a son while th she was in the 10 grade. She was very much in love with her son’s father, but the father was not in love with her and wanted nothing to do with her or the child after he found out about the pregnancy. My friend, to this day, 30- file:///C|/counseling%20outfitters/Robinson.htm (3 of 17) [8/12/2006 10:13:36 AM]
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